Why Do Kids Resist Giving up Diapers?

Even if your child exhibits signs of potty training readiness, they still may cling to their diaper. As frustrating as this can be (for child and parent alike), it's very common and likely not intended as defiance. Here are some common reasons for a refusal to ditch diapers.

They're nervous about the change. Giving up the diaper, like any rite of passage while growing up, could feel genuinely upsetting for your child, and they might cling to the comfort of their routines. For that reason, parents should acknowledge when their child no longer tolerates a wet or dirty diaper, and use this as an opportunity to push them out of their comfort zone with potty training.

They're worried about failure. Another reason a child might prefer a diaper is that they worry about disappointing you (or themselves) with accidents. That's why it's helpful—and good for a child's self-esteem— to focus on the successes instead of failures.

They're stubborn. Stubbornness may also play a part—and that's OK. Young children learn by testing boundaries and build independence by making their own decisions. Power struggles are par for the course when implementing new routines, teaching new skills, or altering expectations. Adapting to letting go of diapers is no different.

They might have other reasons. Children might resist potty training because they still want to be your "baby." They may like the design imprinted on their diapers (a problem solved by providing equally enticing big-kid pants). Or, they might just like getting a rise out of you—and your attention. No matter what, it's important to find the source of the resistance. Once they feel heard and their concerns are aired, you'll likely see greater compliance with your potty training plan.